Divorce Parties

Having a divorce party can help you move beyond your painful past.

Popularity of Divorce Parties Surges

With the large number of divorces in the United States, it is no surprise that people see the end of a marriage as a chance to throw divorce parties. These parties are often thrown after the divorce is final, as a rite of passage into a new stage of your life.Parties are usually separated by gender. Women tend to throw them most often, though some men do as well. Sometimes the divorce is fairy amicable, and the couple hosts a joint party, although this is fairly uncommon.

Women's Parties

Women's parties tend to focus on the newfound freedom she receives after her divorce. Women tend to make divorce the beginning of a new life where they find new jobs, relocate, or become involved in outside interests. The parties often are "girl's night out" type parties, often involving alcohol.

Men's Parties

Far fewer men throw divorce parties than do women. When men do get together in celebration of a divorce, it tends to focus around another activity: basketball, golf, pool, concerts, or heading to the bar.

Couples' Parties

Couples who have an amicable divorce may end up throwing a party together. It is not frequently done, and do not expect a large number of people to attend. These parties tend to be barbeques or light-hearted activities like bowling or miniature golfing.

Party Ideas

A divorce party can be just about whatever you want it to be. It may or may not involve alcohol--though it often does. You can go out or stay in; invite 20 friends or just two. Your divorce party should be about how you want to celebrate the beginning of your new life.

Consider the following party ideas when making your plans:

  • Margarita Night: Have take-out Mexican, make margaritas, and have raunchy desserts.
  • Movie Night: Watch comedies or classics, make popcorn, and have sodas or beers chilled.
  • Bar Night: Head out to your favorite bar or club. Whether you enjoy appetizers and wine, or beer and pizza, make sure all your friends stay till closing!
  • Game Night: Get together with girl or guy friends to play board games. This can be an alcoholic or non-alcoholic gathering.
  • Sports Night: Head out to a ballgame then a bar afterwards with all your buddies to celebrate your team's win and the signing of yourdivorce papers.

Regardless of the kind of party you choose to have, food and friends definitely make the night fun and memorable. Little touches like tongue-in-cheek paper plates, napkins, and favors can make the evening silly and light-hearted.

Children and Divorce Parties

No matter the age of your children, they tend to be upset by divorcing parents. Even adult children may be disconcerted by the fact their mom or dad is so incredibly happy to be without the other. It is best to leave children out of the party planning stages and not invite them.

If you are planning an evening party, make it the same night that your children are invited to a slumber party. Asking Grandma and Grandpa to babysit overnight is another great option. The last thing you want is for your children to come home to see Mom or Dad jumping for joy over the loss of their spouse.

When you refer to your divorce party at home, do not call it that. Just tell your children you are having a dinner with your girlfriends or heading to the ballgame with your buddies. No good reason exists to tell them about your party.

Party Do's and Don'ts

Throwing divorce parties can be a great deal of fun. However, you'll want to keep in mind a few loose rules in order to make sure things run smoothly.

Do:

  • Invite other divorced friends and family members
  • Invite friends and family who have shown you support in your divorce
  • Have lots of food and drinks
  • Take your ex's telephone number out of your cell phone (just in case)
  • Have a designated driver
  • Remember that this party is about you, not your ex-partner

Don't:

  • Ask your children to come
  • Speak badly of your spouse or disparage his/her character, especially if mutual friends are invited
  • Videotape or bring cameras if excessive amounts of alcohol are consumed
  • Burn or throw all mementos of your relationship; your children may want them further down the road
  • Wallow in sadness over your failed marriage
  • Invite co-workers, bosses, or your ex's family members, even if they seem supportive
  • Use the party as an excuse for a one-night stand
  • Have a home party during the week that may disrupt neighbors
  • Trash a rented hotel room or other area you do not own

Divorce parties can offer you a fun way to close off the final chapter of your married life. Have a great time celebrating your independence, but remember that the best times in life are still ahead of you. Be ready to start the next day with a clean slate.

Divorce Parties