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If your former mother in law wants visitation with your child, she will likely have to go to court to get it. If she brings a motion, you will have the chance to tell the Court why it would not be in your child's best interest to have contact with her.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

My X's mother told my husband & I she did not want anything to do with any child I had ever had. She refussed to even see my child. My husband & I recently divorced & now my child is almost 15 old. My X mother-in-law now wants to see my child since the divorce she wanted is finalized. I have told my X that I do not want visitation with my X mother-in-law because she vehemently hated my child for so many years. This woman cusses like a sailor & is verbally & physically abusive to children. Can I stop this from happening? Thank you!

-- Contributed by: Child visitation to my X's mother

Colleen,

If child support and visitation are being decided by a judge, they can be dealt with at the same time, subject to the judge's discretion.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

Can child support and visitation rights be done the same day and time in court in Arkansas?

-- Contributed by: Colleen

Sandra,

Child support and visitation are considered separate matters. Your husband has a legal responsibility to support his child/children. Whether he would be granted visitation would depend on the best interests of the child. Failure to pay child support doesn't mean that he cannot see and spend time with his child/children.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

the reason i ask is because i am in the process of getting a divorce and am not clear on that and don't know what to ask for?

-- Contributed by: sandra

I have a question, if the noncustodial parent pays child support dose that automaticlly give him visitation rights?

-- Contributed by: sandra

Emily,

Child support and visitation are two separate things. He is entitled to have access to his child, and you may be in contempt of court if you deny him. If he does not make his child support payments as ordered, you can start collection proceedings against him.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

I have a 11 month old son. He did not meet his father until he was 8 months old. He is to be layed off from his job in the next month and he is not looking for a new job. I understand that child support and visitation are two seperate orders. But I do not belive he should get to see his son if he is not paying child support. He never calls and checks up on his son. What should I do?

-- Contributed by: Emily

Sadmom,

Please consult an attorney about your concerns and what you need to show the Court to get a more specific order.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

I have a current order that states I have EOW and when the dad works, as well as first right of refusal. He is to give me his schedule the friday prior. This weekend he wants our daughter and its my weekend, I plan to call the police tomorrow about it. As far as the other times this has happened, it was when he was sheduled to work and its not spacific in the court order. the judge deosn't see why it needs to be modified to be spacific. He barely complies. Is there anything I can do to make the judge make it a spacific order.

-- Contributed by: sadmom

I have sole legal and physical custody of my 4 yr. old daughter. Her biological father has visitation rights, court order. We made a verbal agreement, which we where told could be done, but he only came to get her the day we made the agreement and never came again. He never seems concerned enough to check up on her to see how she is doing. He wouldnt notify me when he wasnt going to make it, eventhough i told him he could either call text or email, and i would always have my daughter ready to go and he'd never show.

Is there anyway I can request that visitations not be allowed?

I know that child support and visitations are two issues and i have never denied him visitations when child support was not paid, but i feel like he only demands to see the baby when he pays the full amount of child support. For example if he pays me 30.00 for 2 weeks he doesnt bother with visits, but if he pays me 150-190 for 2 weeks then he wants to see her and demands sleepovers. I just dont want to end up looking like the bad guy im sure when he gets the chance he will make it seem like im denying him visitations. The phone is not the only way he can contact me. He knows other means of communication: where I live, my email. Please Help.

-- Contributed by: Scared

Concerned,

In that situation, you should consult with a lawyer to ask taking legal action against the non-custodial parent.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

When I had my son 5 years ago at the hospital, I was the sole person to sign on his birthday certificate. I also have a court order that says I am the sole custodial parent. I am not collecting child support because I don't have his social security or address (he refuses to give it to me.) My son's father does not give me his address. He does not have a permanent address as he moves every 6 months. He does not have a stable income or regular employment. . He was not driving for at least 2 years (reason unknown)Every now and then, he shows up at my house demanding to see his child. The Court ordered "reasonable visitation" for the noncustodial parent. Sometimes, I wish that he stopped coming altogether. For the past 5 years, he only shows up sporadically, and has shown up several times drunk. This is the first year ever that he gave his son a Christmas present. Do I have the right to refuse him taking the child anywhere because of his shaky life? I am afraid if I don't let him see or take the child out, he may call the police on me and embarass me in front of my neighbors.

-- Contributed by: Concerned Parent

What if I have sole legal custody of my daughter and those legal custody rights are being violated by the non-custodial parent?

-- Contributed by: Loving mother

Grandma,

The Court may decide to set a different custody arrangement for the child because your daughter was denied her visitation rights.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

my daughter's ex has denied her visitation for months.The Florida police accompanied her to his house to get the kids for a visitation and the ex refused to hand them over. The police would not get involved. She can't afford a lawyer. She has filed a "contempt of court" but that takes about 3 months to get a court date and then the ex files for an extension and it just goes on and on!!!! Help! Will he just get his hand slapped? What are the consequences to his denial of visitation rights?

-- Contributed by: grandma M

Concerned,

If there is a court order in place, your ex has the right to see his son and you would be in contempt of court if you did not let the visitation take place. The order can be changed if it is no longer in your son's best interests to see his father, but you have to present evidence to prove this fact the the Court.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

My son is 14, and does not want to go to his fathers house for the weekend visitation. When he told his father that, he told him he doesnt have a choice that he has to go. DOES HE HAVE A CHOICE??? Please someone let me know.

-- Contributed by: concerned mom

My husband is trying to get visitation rights set-up with his ex-wife through the courts because she has not been very cooperative on mutual agreement. she is bitter and resentful, please let me know if there is any information available on how to educate these custodial parents on how important and how it effects the children not being able to spend time with the fathers.

-- Contributed by: Catalina

Angry Mom,

I can appreciate why you feel that way. It must not seem fair that the law is written in this way.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

You know, i have read this and it makes me mad to read it only cause i have been going through visitation with my daughter and her father now since the bigging of March. i have never received child support from her father because he doesn't want to work and will probably never work now. It makes me mad cause when i was in court just about a month ago with the whole visitation times and the stupid rule 24, it made me mad in the court and out to find out that visitation and child support are 2 separate things. The way i see it...they shouldnt be. if the father or the mother cannot afford to pay then how would he be able to pay for them to stay at their house and take care of their food, shelter, clothes? i mean even when they are with the other parent, that parent needs money also to help pay for the things that she/he gets for their kid(s). i think in my eyes that if they are behide then they shouldnt have rights. i just dont get it

-- Contributed by: Angry Mom

Jim,

If you have been stopped from exercising your visitation rights, please see a lawyer. He or she can help you bring the grandmother's actions to the attention of the Court. If you would like to get custody of your son, you will need to see an attorney anyway.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

EX-GIRLFRIEND'S GRANDMOTHER HAS CUSTODY OF MY SON (MOTHER IN PRISON) I STILL HAVE RIGHTS. SHE'S TRYING TO MOVE SON OUT OF STATE.DID NOT TELL ME AND HAS KEPT SON FROM ME FOR 6 WEEKS. WHAT IS MY BEST COURSE OF ACTION? AND HOW CAN I REGAIN CUSTODY?

-- Contributed by: JIM
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