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Looking for Answers,

Take the copy of the e-mail to your attorney to get advice for your particular set of cir...stances.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

I am at the tail end (let's hope after a year) of a divorce. My husband owned 2 restaurants. a few months before I filed for divorce, he sold one of his restaurants to his first wife. He told me he sold it for $45,000, but that she only made a couple $5000 payments and had not received any further payments. A couple months ago, I logged on to his e-mail (he had given me his password several times in the past and luckly for me, he didn't change it!). I came across an e-mail that he sent to his attorney that stated He received a $25,000 payment in Nov. (months before I even filed for divorce) another $7500 payment in Dec. and $10,000 in Jan. During our "temporary order" hearing, the judge stated "if there have not been consistant payments on the land contract for this restaurant, than said restaurant will be awarded to plantiff (me)." Of course now I found out about these payments and printed off the e-mail for proff" Am I entitled to ALL of said money due to his lying about it? Half? Anything?

-- Contributed by: looking for answers

Dee Cee,

You do have some options. If you don't want to handle the divorce yourself, can you find an attorney in a nearby town or city who will agree to represent you? The State Bar Association may be able to provide you with a referral to someone in your area. If you are being emotionally abused, you can contact the local women's shelter for help and ask if they can refer you to an attorney.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

My husband is such a cheat and he is self-employed. I want a divorce, but I know I will get nothing. He is a bail bondsman and "friends" with all the attorneys around, so no one will handle a divorce for me. I don't know what to do in this emotionally abusive marriage, but I can't stand it anymore! Even his best friend warned me about this. Any advice is apprecciated.

-- Contributed by: Dee Cee

April,

Take the proof that you have to your attorney and get advice about the best way to deal with this situation.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

My husband is hiding money in my 23 yr old sons account during our divorce. I have proof that he transferred funds from my son's account to his. I'm in Texas...would there be any consideration in asking the judge for a third party disclosure on my son's bank account. Or do I have to bring my son into the lawsuit?

-- Contributed by: April

Jill,

I would suggest that you consult with a lawyer to ask whether the fact that your husband was hiding assets is grounds for re-opening your divorce settlement.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

My ex-husband and I finalized our divorce last year. It recently came to my attention that he hid a settlement he received of about $55,000. Is there anything I can do about this now, or am I S.O.L.?

-- Contributed by: Jill

Sue,

You would probably need to get a subpoena or a court order to get access to his post office box. An attorney will be able to advise you on how to proceed.

Jodee Redmond

LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

Can I legally get access to my husbands post office box and I believe he is hiding money in a business he operates alone and files seperately from our joint account.

-- Contributed by: Sue

My husband and I are seperated and living seperatly for 5 months. We agreed that we would seperate, sell the house and then file for divorce. But just recently he told me he was filling for divorce now. I ran across some paperwork stating he had taken out $10,000 from his 401K and put it into a bank account. He does not know that i found this. I live in Missouri. I stayed home for 8 years of the 9 years we were married. I was wondering even though he took that out am i still entitled to it as i would have been if it was in his 401K. And if he spends this am i still entitled to it? And what steps should i take to ensure he doesnt try and take this from me? Thanks!

-- Contributed by: Tabatha

Hi Cheryl,

Forbes.com posted an interesting article about bankruptcy and divorce. You can read it here: http://www.forbes.com/personalfinance/taxesestates/2007/05/03/divorce-bankruptcy-debt-pf-estates-in_mb_0503money_inl.html

I would suggest that you contact an attorney who is familiar with both bankruptcy and divorce to discuss your particular situation. Take any financial records for your IRA with you to the lawyer's office. Your attorney will need this information.

JC Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

I married an ex-bank robber. Stupid, desperate, me. He took my ira $ worth about 65 thousand and blew it on the stock market, so he said. I dont believe him. I think he transfered the accounts, and is threatening bankruptsy to keep from having to repay me. I am a single mom of 3, my ex before him a physician. Lots of bad kid problems, and this guy too advantage of me when I was deep into helping my daughter. How can I make him pay? I owe the irs 44 thous.Should'nt he be responsible for 1/2 that?

-- Contributed by: Cheryl

Share this new information, including any proof you have of the date this transation took place, with your lawyer. He or she will be able to advise you whether this will change your agreement with your former spouse.

-- Contributed by: JCRedmond

I just found out my ex-wife had her mother buy a house for her (cash) and put it into a trust during our divorce. We were still married at the time of transfer....is this legal? Is there anything I can do? I still owe her $ from the divorce but feel our agreement we made should be different with this new info.

Thanks

-- Contributed by: Brooks Mitchell
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